Most people get messages from day to day from friends or aquaintances. Emails,sms and even social networking sites personal messages to you direct or less personal Wall messages. What do you do however if you get a message to you direct as PM from a friend asking something and you reply with answers and suggestions, but needing a further reply so you know if what you said was worth anything to them but you dont ?
Do you assume that everything was a lie and you were never worth anything to them ? Were you just filling a gap while their true friends were absent ? Do you confront them to see what you did wrong wanting a reason ? You would at least know what you did wrong and if it wasn’t worth dismissal from their life at least you’d know and could just move on. What if they are still listed as friends or not blocking you on msn/facebook etc., is it better to go silent and await them to delete you ? With the lack of self confidence when you get knocked back due to no reply from messages I go silent. Plus I always make excuses for them. They haven’t seen my message or forgot to reply, they may not be as polite as you expect and so on.
If someone has chatted with you from day to day enough to make you think they were a friend and liked you and made you feel good enough inside to send them birthday or Christmas gifts without price (gift return etc.) more as a kindred spirit than a lover does it make you stupid to become attached to them too closely ?
With my shyness it can be crippling to me for someone to just suddenly ignore your existence. I don’t actually love many people or have too many friends outside family so I might easily love them. Thankfully I value life more than most or am too much of a coward otherwise I may have been swinging from a rope many years ago. I’m lucky having a loving family and mans best friend – mine and my families dogs – else I would just think I’m so worthless I’d shrivel up and die or curl up into a ball and waste away.
The question ‘Is it or isn’t it friendship ?’ comes into play.
